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No woman deserves to be abused. Unfortunately some women have experienced verbal, emotional, and/or physical abuse in their current or past relationships. Abuse happens in all social classes, neighborhoods, and professions. It is common to deny or not recognize what may be happening. Below is a checklist that may help you clarify your situation.
Do you accept blame for everything that goes wrong in the relationship/family?
Do you "walk on eggshells", watch what and how you use words, avoid concerns, not knowing how your spouse will react?
Do you constantly try to get your spouse's approval, turning yourself inside out trying to meet their ever- changing demands?
Have you given up interests, activities, family or friends that once were important to you to appease or avoid his anger?
Is your life based on trying to please your spouse so as to avoid his wrath, anger, disapproval, or ridicule?
Have you let go of or stopped expressing your opinions, needs, attitudes, hopes, and dreams because the arguments or put-downs aren't worth the pain?
Is your spouse relentlessly critical of you, always finding fault?
Is your spouse jealous, suspicious, or possessive of whom you see, talk to, go out with, or spend time with?
Does your spouse blame you or other people for all his failures and shortcomings?
Does your spouse say you are too sensitive, or overreacting if you get upset when he attacks you?
Do you constantly tell the children to be careful or quiet so they won't upset and get in the way of daddy?
Are you ignored, punished with silence, walked away from, or do they refuse to talk to you, pulling away for hours or days? Then, suddenly act like nothing happened and don't want to talk about "it?"
Have you been pushed, thrown down, bumped, slapped, hit, or otherwise painfully touched by your spouse/partner?
Are you intimidated/controlled by objects thrown, slammed door/drawers, gestures, or postures and threats by your spouse?
Does your spouse constantly criticize family/friends, to the point that you are becoming increasingly isolated to avoid the negative disapproval?
Is your spouse charming in public but without warning launches into a tirade when alone, making you feel crazy?
Does your spouse belittle your accomplishments, your sexuality, feelings or needs, or your parenting, spiritual life or spousal role?
Are you the only one who sees the hurtful, angry side of your spouse and don't think anyone will believe you?
Does your spouse withhold money, spend irresponsibly, run up credit card debt, without your knowledge and leave you to deal with the creditors and shortage or essentials, like food?
If you answered "yes" to seven or more of these questions, you and your marriage are at risk. God grieves in the midst of the pain that abuse brings– there is hope for change!
Many resources are available to you like this support group, counseling, shelters, print material, and confidential phone support. We are here to help you. Call us or one of the crisis lines below for assistance.